A PATIENT's TENETs

A Patient's Tenets

---1. The idea that to get anything that you really need, one has to begin the process by giving it. This is essentially the Golden Rule. Whatever behavior that you want shown to you usually begins with you showing that behavior to others. Whether it be hate, love, respect, disrespect, etc., if you want others to treat you kindly then it behooves you to treat others kindly. (Biggest mistake is in waiting for others to treat you the way you want...first.)

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---2. Another thing that the patient needs to enjoy living is to be heard and to be taken seriously. Folks must learn how to listen to the resident/patient. They must learn to hear what the resident/patient says. Then he must take him/her seriously. Both are very important and makes a big difference to those who experience this. When this happens for the patient, and he is assured that this has taken place, it frees him to NOT worry about being heard or taken seriously. He will begin to experience more quality in his/her life. His level of enjoyment will skyrocket. Everything will look up. He/she will know himself in a much deeper way, through this process.

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---3. Learning that through the power of YET…one can learn and grow beyond what he/she may have originally thought. One may go from a FIXED MINDSET to a GROWTH MINDSET more easily when one is convinced it may happen. With the knowing of the power of YET, things that aren’t known YET, can now be learned. It is NOW known, through scientific study, that all folks can improve and grow. Understanding effort is the key!

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A LESSON FOR DR. SWEET

A LESSON FOR

DR. VICTORIA SWEET

and US ALL

---I'd like to speak about something that Dr. Sweet mentions in her book, ''God's Hotel.'' On page 29 in one of the versions of the book she speaks of talking to a Miss Tod. Miss Tod had brain cancer that was still growing behind her right eye. The eye had been removed and her eyelid was sewn shut. Dr. Sweet mentions that she was hard to look at.

---Having gotten used to the physical appearance of Miss Tod, and after exchanging pleasantries...Dr. Sweet looked at Miss Tod and asked if there was anything that she could do for her?

She expected euthanasia, some sort of miracle cure, stronger pain medication or even a second opinion. With all the poise and equanimity Miss Tod asked if there was something Dr. Sweet could do about her food being so bland and a pair of eyeglasses. Dr. Sweet mentions being floored by the response. She helped her with those things. Miss Tod changed wards and lived another 18 months.

WHAT DR. SWEET LEARNED THAT DAY:

---What Dr. Sweet learned that day was priceless from my perspective. From Miss Tod's attitude she learned that ''somehow she accepted her fate, and it was the small things, the little daily things, that were important to her.'' Dr. Sweet goes on to speak of bravery at the core.

IMPORTANT POINT:

--She then mentioned something that floored me. Admitting that many young doctors are very healthy, curious, hardworking, etc. What do they know of misfortune? (A VERY IMPORTANT POINT. DEPICTS A DUALITY THAT EXISTS VERY OFTEN.) And, even when there is no cancer to deal with, the patient still has his needs and preferences. Reread the section about Miss Tod if you've forgotten the story. As I said it's page 29 in my book and lasts about two pages. It is a good lesson for all of us. Be Well.

Dr. Victoria Sweet worked at Laguna Honda Hospital (God's Hotel) for 20 years before she wrote her book ''God's Hotel.'' It is about our old Laguna Honda Hospital.

She was my doctor for the last two years before she wrote the book. She was a fine doctor and a very nice person. And, she is a very good writer. Her books are highly recommended by me and she has won many awards because of them. Pick-up a copy and you will do yourselves a favor. We had a wonderful time together.

Making an IMPATIENT PATIENT...PATIENT!

MEETING or NOT MEETING
Needs!

 

Make an impatient patient...patient!
MEET NEEDS!

Make a patient patient...impatient!
DON’T MEET NEEDS!

Keep a patient patient...patient!
MEET NEEDS!

Keep an impatient patient...impatient!
DON’T MEET NEEDS!

If you don't already know how to get desired results, it has to do with MEETING or NOT MEETING his/her NEEDs. Check to see the results. You'll find your answer very soon. The more wisely the positive reinforcements are used is reflected in the more satisfied experience the patient is having!

The more wisely + regularly the patient's needs are met, the more the patient's patience will rise. The patient just acts better because the patient psychologically feels better.


ACT ACCORDINGLY!

HOSPITAL NOISE

CREATING QUIET HOSPITAL ENVIRONMENT

---A seven page study on the noise at a hospital. I think that reading it without my input would be beneficial. I have spent a great deal of time in a hospital.  My opinion may easily reflect that held by Florence Nightingale.

The IDT or Resident Care Team (Resident Care Conference)

Resident Care Team

IDT

---Here is a picture of ''Your Care Team,'' [IDT], or ''Interdisciplinary Team.'' The team is made up of physicians, nurses, dietitians, activity therapists and other staff. As far as your stay in Laguna Honda Hospital I feel this is the best way to optimize your time while here. It is where the rubber meets the road. Your Care Plan will be developed for you based on your clinical's team assessment of you.

---Your needs + preferences are taken into consideration along with the list of medical needs with which you present. You are allegedly residing in a unit that best meets your clinical needs. Your active participation with your care planning is encouraged, valued and will help make your care plan more effective. Your family or other relations involved in making decisions regarding your care if you have that need, called surrogate decision makers, may also contribute to your care planning. You or you and your surrogate will be notified by your social worker of all quarterly team meetings.

---Your Care Team will meet with you regularly to evaluate your appropriate level of skilled nursing care and clerical needs. If the assigned Care Unit is no longer the optimal place to address your needs, you may be relocated to a more appropriate unit. Your cooperation and input within this process is greatly appreciated.

---I always thought that the following would be a huge-plus to the care of the patient. That would be if someone from your Care Team was assigned to be your ''Go -To'' person. He or she will meet with you on a regular basis until no longer necessary, especially as you begin your stay at LHH. He/she will answer questions and help to orient you to your new surroundings and to keep the tenets of your last Care Team Conference (provided you had one,) going. He or she will keep  your next RCC fresh in your mind. He or she jots down requests or questions that you may have over the course of the three months whose answer needs to come from your Care Team. He or she is responsible for ''how things are going for you...on the unit (and the hospital) overall.'' The ''Go -To'' person is NOT in place as I think it should be.

ORIGINALLY WRITTEN IN OLD HOSPITAL

THE BETTER YOU KNOW YOUR TEAM or YOUR TEAM KNOWS YOU, THE BETTER WILL BE THE RESULTS.

THE BETTER YOU KNOW YOURSELVES IS THE BEST PLACE TO BE!

GETTING YOUR NEEDS MET IN RELATIONSHIP

10 Ways To Get Your Needs 

Met In Relationship

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Many people don't know how to ask for what they need in their relationships. The trick is to talk about your own feelings. Here are ten non-confrontational methods that will help you get your emotional desires met.

1. If you want your partner to change, get good at making observations. Watch how your partner behaves and be prepared to point that behavior out to your mate in a loving and constructive manner. Blasting someone is not empathetic - it's unkind.

2. Discuss the real behaviors that are affecting your relationship. These need to be delivered without opinions. Discuss what specific behaviors you see that you don’t feel good about. (Example: The other day when I was talking you interrupted me.)

3. Look at how you are feeling. Are you angry, do you feel cheated or let down? If so you need to tell your partner without belittling him or her. If you present your feelings honestly, a person who loves you will naturally do his or her best to make things right.

4. Ask for what you need. Do you want change, understanding or compatibility? Whatever your need asking for it directly will greatly improve your chances of getting it. If your partner doesn't know what you need or if you expect him or her to read your mind no changes can happen.

5. Make a single request. By asking your partner for one specific change you greatly increase the provability of getting your needs met. It's best to state your request in gentle terms like, "In the future would you be willing to…"

6. Actively address the issue or let it go. Stockpiling (continuing to bring up old topics) will not help to heal your issue. State your needs, have a discussion and then make an agreement that you have either gotten what you needed and are willing to move on or agree that you will readdress the problem at another time in the near future.

7. Become more realistic in your expectations. Lowering your expectations is not the same as making them realistic, and you can still have your dreams. It's healthier to have preferences rather than expectations, that way you won't feel as disappointed if your preference isn't met.

8. Tell your partner what you want, not what you don’t want. Be honest, be clear and be kind. By letting your partner know exactly what you want it will make his or her job much easier.

9. Truly value the contribution your partner has made to your life. If someone feels valued he or she will do the best they can to keep your opinion of them high. Reminding your mate that you know your life is better because he or she is in it is very motivational and very loving.

10. Equity versus quality. Balance is key to maintaining an emotionally fit relationship. Even though things may not be exactly as you would like them, feeling that life with your mate is balanced will help you to maintain a loving environment.

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MOTIVATIONAL SPEECH

''EXCELLENT''

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